Board Corner – March, 2018 (Advisory Board)

ADVISORY BOARD MEETING March 28, 2018

Attendees: Martha Canning, Christine Rigby-Hall, Traci Hortinela, Rhonda Jimenez, Mary Beth Holland, Meg Brew, Beth Massa, Audrey Mezas, Lisa Janisch, Christine Collins, Kristin DeLong, Beth van Amerongen, Helene Garofalo, Danielle Tomich, Lauren Mescon

President Martha Canning called the meeting to order at 10:15 a.m.

FAWCO Interim Meeting - Martha shared that Lauren Mescon won a well-deserved FAWCO award. AWCA is the top donor to the Target Project. We now have Diamond Donor status!

Scholarship - Beth Massa reported that she has not yet received applications for the scholarships. It was discussed that it is normal for the applicants to wait until the last minute. It was discussed that the scholarship is merit-based, however, if minimum academic requirements are not met, applicants are not eligible. The academic requirements were discussed with respect to the different grading systems at schools. Members are encouraged to submit proposals for the description of the requirements. We need to be sure we continue to promote it. Beth Massa will send Beth van Amerongen the details for a club-wide email.

Youth Program - Rhonda Jimenez shared that our efforts to have business/professional internships are not going as well as she had hoped. As it is pursued further with the companies it becomes evident that it can be more work for the companies and not worth the benefit of having a student help out. One issue is that the program needs to be fluid - set dates don’t work well for the variety of schedules our families have. Furthermore, ISA students don’t get time off for internships so it has to be during the school breaks only, which presents a problem. Dutch schools and the British school give students a week off to be an intern. Rhonda is going to investigate some ideas presented and will also reassess the program to determine if it is worth continuing to pursue.

Amsterdam Activities - Lisa Janisch shared that things are going well as Amsterdam Rep, although she misses her “sidekick” Catherine. Lisa is willing to do the job one more year (bringing it to a total of 10 years as Amsterdam rep!), however, we need to find Lisa a co-rep for the coming year. It was discussed that some of the events have gone by the wayside (such as the Coffees in the City or the Walking Group) but many people are planning individual activities.

Excursions - Christine Collins reported that there have been excursions every month and they have been extremely well-attended. The only hiccup was the Coffeeshop tour: it generated a high amount of interest, but the tour operator canceled. If anyone knows of a possibilty for a coffeeshop tour, please let Christine or Rhonda know. Beth van Amerongen will be taking on excursions for next year and will have a committee. It was discussed that in the coming year we will increase the number of excursions and will vary the demographics, as well as the cost to be sure all members have some excursions which interest them and meet their budget requirements. It was suggested that we consider an excursion to Edinburgh next year during the same weekend of the FAWCO Interim Meeting there.

Art on the Move - Mary Beth reported it has been a great year for AOTM and reviewed the year activities. The Anne Frank neighborhood tour with Lorraine van Nes’ husband was especially good and will possibly be repeated this coming year. Louise Hooley (in Haarlem) is a co-chair and she has coordinated a couple of tours this year. Mary Beth shared some of her thoughts for the remainder of the year. Mary Beth is always open to assistance on AOTM.

Cooking Club - Mary Beth took over the chairing of Cooking Club midyear. Last month it was held in Haarlem which was very well received. It was discussed we should consider doing a cooking club in ’t Gooi as well. It was mentioned that you do not have to have a large kitchen and that it is okay if you have to limit the number of attendees.

Haarlem Activities - Meg Brew reported for Jennifer van Lent. Upcoming events include an Easter egg hunt and a house tour. The end of year party will be a pirate-themed party and it is going to be combined with the Amsterdam end of year event. June 23 is being considered. The monthly coffees seem to vary a great deal in attendance. It was mentioned that Jennifer did a great job of as Haarlem Rep this year, but she will be steping down this year to take on the position of At Night the coming year.

Publicity - It was discussed that there are some new international schools opening both in Haarlem and Amsterdam. Audrey will reach out to our PR Rep Phyllis Larkin to be sure she is aware of these schools.

’t Gooi - Helene Garofalo shared the variety of activities happening in ’t Gooi, such as Crafts, Ladies’ Night Out and Wine Tasting, all advertised on the ’t Gooi Facebook page. This month they are having a dinner at a soup restaurant, which was advertised on the clubwide page to encourage others to attend. They will be having an end of year BBQ, most likely on June 9.

Meet the Newcomers - Kristin DeLong has been doing all the coffees this year at her house. Vera Heijligers will be organizing the coffees next year. Cinda Bross and Lynne Tomlinson did the lunches this year and will not be continuing. We will need to fill this position for next year. It was discussed that there are people still confused about who is invited and how many times they can attend, despite the “Meet the Newcomers” title. Diane has been able to secure hosts for all the months. There were a lot of cancelations in February which was disappointing. She is having issues acquiring the newcomers’ emails and getting them to attend. It was discussed that we should consider having buddies for the newcomers. Ideas for recruiting members were also discussed.

Dining Divas - Traci Hortinela and Elizabeth Gray have planned five so far this year. Several were near Central Station. There are typicaly around 10 members present, although some have had as many as 20 attendees. There is not one this month because of spring vacations. The next one is at the Amsterdam Boat House on May 24.

FAWCO - Lauren Mescon congratulated the entire club for being “rock stars” at the FAWCO Interim Meeting! AWCA member Sherrie Zwail Endermansubmitted Safe Spaces for a developmental award and received it! Many other clubs were intrigued by “Share Your Gifts for Good” and our charity gala, and regularly asked how we did it. The goal for the Target Project was $125,000. FAWCO has nearly met their goal already with AWCA contributing ~$30,000. Lauren plans to use the next few months to be sure and thank our members for making us a “FAWCO club.” Lauren discussed Nacht van de Vluchteling (Night of the Refugee) and shared that our club has a team. She encourages all members to sign up. Lauren mentioned that club members can apply for FAWCO educational awards. She learned tips at FAWCO about how to apply for the awards and plans to share them with the club. Individual clubs can sponsor a education award and or developmental grant. Lauren suggested our club consider doing one with AWC The Hague.

Tulip Talk - Danielle Tomich hopes everyone is opening Tulip Talk and reading it. It is constantly evolving and she is considering moving the non-static items to a page on the AWCA website, so when events are changed, Tulip Talk will reflect that. The blog has been launched and is accessed on the external AWCA website. It is for promoting the club and a sharing platform for members. The differences between the blog, Tulip Talk and Facebook posts were discussed.

Book Group - Danielle shared that Afternoon Book Group was so popular that it had a waiting list, so a new evening one was formed and the new one is now full. It was mentioned that the AWCA could probably handle another book club if we have a member willing to form it.

The meeting was adjourned at 2 p.m.

Board Corner – March, 2018 (Executive Board)

EXECUTIVE BOARD MEETING March 28, 2018

DRAFT - NOT YET APPROVED

Present: Beth van Amerongen, Martha Canning, Kristin DeLong, Robin Ford, Lauren Mescon, Audrey Mezas, Christine Rigby-Hall

I. Officer Reports

  1. Treasurer - Robin
    1. Budget - We need to create the budget to be approved at the May meeting. A lot of this will be done over email. It was discussed that we want to have a percentage of individual budgets which require board approval if spent on one event.
    2. Andaz Spend - We met our spend at the Andaz this year.
  2. Vice President - Christine
    1. April 9th GM and April 10th At Night meetings both have speakers. Beth will be the Board Member present for At Night.
    2. Christine has a committee and had a meeting for the June Luncheon. They are asking for donations from our vendors and members for the luncheon raffle.
  3. VP Programs - Audrey
    1. New club meeting location - The board voted online and the Amstel Hotel came in first. Audrey will be negotiating with the Amstel Hotel to bring the price down and to see if we can get a two-year contract.
  4. VP Membership - Kristin
    1. We have 283 members currently. Kristin is going to send a survey to our new members to assess how we are doing welcoming newcomers.
  5. VP Communications/Secretary - Beth
    1. PR - We discussed how we want to be represented as a club. Beth will get with Phyllis to assess where she is in her planning. Beth will get with Rhonda and Phyllis to revamp the flyer which was created for promoting the club at ISA. The board agreed that we need one flyer from AWCA. We need better communication with the board and PR. Beth will speak with Phyllis to create regular reports.

II. Chairwomen/Committee Reports

    1. Nominating Committee - Lauren The process is going well. Jennifer has received 52 proxies. Beth will be sending the proxy to the members again in the coming week.

III. New Business

    1. Opijnen - The board decided several years ago that our obligations to Opijnen would be officially recorded in our bylaws. All the U.S. soldiers in the Netherlands are buried in Margraten with a few exceptions, including Opijnen. If the graves are not properly honored, the U.S. government can transfer them to Margraten. Our obligation is for the president to speak, and we pay for and place a wreath. Martha will look at the procedure to amend Bylaws so we can do so at the May meeting.
    2. New regulations on communications for the EU - Beth needs to check with Cat Conner to find out what they are and what steps the club needs to take.

IV. Schedule next meeting - Monday, April 23, 12:30 p.m. at Robin’s house

AWCA Shines at FAWCO Interim Meeting in The Hague

by AWCA FAWCO Rep Lauren Mescon

It was the most power-packed FAWCO meeting I’ve attended, dense with information and knowledgeable speakers.   — Susan Ailleris

The AWCA contingency, from left to right: Meg Brew, Lauren Mescon, Jennifer van Lent, Barbara Clement, Rhonda Jimenez, Cheryl Steenman-Bash, Julie Lehr, Susan Ailleris, Christine Rigby-Hall and Martha Canning. 

Everywhere you looked or listened at the FAWCO Interim Meeting in The Hague, Amsterdam was in the spotlight.

At the opening session, our club received a FAWCO Rep award, and that was only the beginning. Our incredible group of 10 club members, many of whom were first-timers, made us the club with the second highest number of attendees at the meeting. It was a well-attended meeting that drew women from 42 clubs in 22 countries, ranging in location from Australia to Moscow to India to Colombia. In session after session, AWCA was recognized — verbally and in photos — for our fundraising efforts and our club’s community-building. Our campaigns, Raising Our Hands for Education, Sharing Our Gifts for Good and our Tulip Gala, were offered as examples of best practices to other clubs.

At the final session, an AWCA-nominated club, Safe Spaces, was awarded a development grant for $4,500 to #Reboot Computer Literacy. Many thanks to Sherri Zwail for all her hard work.

Julie and I were "busting our buttons" with pride the entire weekend, and I think I can safely say our president was, too!

Thank you to everyone…we have created a fantastic community at AWCA and it is a model for other clubs in FAWCO.

 

Note from the editor: Lauren (on right above) didn't include this in her article, but she was recognized for her work as a FAWCO rep. Congratulations, Lauren!

Impressions from AWCA members who attended:

I happily wore my Amsterdam chapter badge — which gave me instant celebrity status, thanks to our FAWCO reps Lauren and Julie. Amsterdam has made quite a mark on FAWCO, raising almost a third of all money raised for the Target Project thus far and bringing new ideas and excitement to the cause. —Rhonda Jimenez

Meg Brew: I learned about all of the resources and connections we can make, for things for my family like guidance for colleges and US tax reforms, and for our club, financial tips, and Thirsty Thursdays for a pub night in Haarlem!

It was great meeting so many new interesting women from all over the world. Every time I sat down, I sat by someone new. I really enjoyed hearing about their areas, clubs, families, and travels.

Lauren, Martha, Julie & Susan "hatting fun" with the Alice and Wonderland theme.

Susan Ailleris: It was the most power-packed FAWCO meeting I’ve attended, dense with information and knowledgeable speakers. Things I’m excited about:

  1. FAWCO is officially an NGO and has a seat at the UN table where we have a say, however small, in actual policy formation. A random example? FAWCO’s name, along with those of 94 other NGOs, is on the bottom of a letter drafted by the Leadership Conference on Civil and Human Rights supporting continued funding of Planned Parenthood in the US. This would absolutely not be possible to do as a private citizen alone, or even as a club alone, but only as a consolidated voice with other NGOs. I will be joining this team.
  2. Don’t like the FATCA requirements? FAWCO is also our voice in Washington, D.C., where they are working with other groups of overseas Americans to change the definition of one small but very important word - FOREIGN. Your foreign bank accounts are currently defined as accounts outside of the US; imagine how much easier life will be when they are defined as accounts outside of your country of residence. No more reporting your grocery account. And...
  3. I found out: only 4% of the 8 million Americans living outside of the US actually VOTE. Expect to hear me lobbying on this in the near future… oh, yeah, and...
  4. How cool is it that our own Sherrie Zwail and her Safe Spaces charity won a $4,500 development grant? That’s free money, ladies! Does anyone else have a charity they’d like to see supported?

I was proud to rub elbows with our prize-winning reps Lauren and Julie, the relentless Meg Brew (former FAWCO secretary, by the way) who helps us reap the benefits of FAWCO, and with our soon-to-be-president Rhonda Jimenez, who I know learned a lot from other club presidents in attendance. Thanks to all!

Lauren Mescon (left) with Amanda Lane of Hope Beyond Displacement

Rhonda Jimenez: What’s down the rabbit hole? The Alice in Wonderland theme for the Saturday evening gala perfectly suited how I felt as I entered the world of FAWCO. Yes, it is a whole world — with women from Marrakech to Moscow. I felt awkward that first moment I entered but quickly found a perfect fit just like Alice did. I happily wore my Amsterdam chapter badge — which gave me instant celebrity status, thanks to our FAWCO reps Lauren and Julie. Amsterdam has made quite a mark on FAWCO, raising almost a third of all money raised for the Target Project thus far and bringing new ideas and excitement to the cause. I learned so much attending the seminars taught by brilliant, eager women wanting to make a change in the world. It was so inspiring — I filled a notebook with ideas for our club. My final impression was how vast a resource we have in FAWCO: a friend in every port, a colleague to ask a favor or question, a mentor to support you, a teacher to educate us, a sister to challenge our perspective and, most of all, a girlfriend to share this amazing experience with.

Keukenhof: Tiptoe through the tulips, and daffodils, and hyacinths…

by Danielle Tomich, AWCA member

If you’re lucky enough to live in Holland, with the world-famous Keukenhof Gardens in your back yard, you’d have to be some sort of April’s fool not to visit at some point during the season. Here’s some information to help you plan your own tiptoe trip.

What’s up, buttercup? Is it all just hype? No. Consistently listed among the most beautiful gardens in the world, the Keukenhof is a must-see for anyone who enjoys flowers, gardens or convening with nature. Granted, the gardeners leave little to nature: these lush, manicured gardens are artfully designed by people who know what they’re doing. Graced with dozens of varieties of hyacinths, daffodils, and tulips that bloom at different times, the garden changes throughout the season. In fact, it changes each year: At the end of the season all the bulbs are removed and the beds are replanted with different varieties and designs.

More than gardens. The garden naturally has beautiful ponds, bridges, and water features, but it also includes children’s play areas, a windmill, great views of the tulip fields, sculptures, boat rides through its small canals, places to eat and, of course, gift shops. An unexpected delight in 2016 was an area of garden pots and decorations done in Dutch tile mosaics. And don’t miss the flower shows in the pavilions. Not your ordinary state-fair fare, these flower-based art displays are professionally done with great care and creativity.

When to visit. The gardens are open daily March 22 to May 13 from 8 a.m. to 7:30 p.m. Whenever possible, visit on a weekday, preferably mid-week, either first thing in the morning or toward closing time. Check the schedules for the flower shows (in the pavilions), as they may influence your choice of dates.

Early in the season, before most of the tulips have come up, a heavenly fragrance floats like a mist through the gardens: the hyacinths are in their prime. They bloom in violet, pink, blue, white and every hue in-between, and they are often mixed in a bed-bouquet with an equally astonishing array of daffodils and early-bird tulips. If you’re lucky, the cherry trees will be spreading their pink lace canopy. But perhaps the best reason to visit early is to avoid the massive crowds. In its 69th year, the garden is expecting one million visitors this season.

If you go later, you’ll see the most tulips, both in the gardens and in the fields viewable from the vista spots. Timing is tricky (from year-to-year the peak varies), but the last week of April is a good bet. You can check out what’s blooming weekly on the garden’s Facebook page; they update the bloom status every Wednesday.

Rain is a good possibility no matter when you plan to go, but keep in mind that the soft light on those cloudy days will make the colors pop in your photos.

Bike the fields. For a completely different experience, pedal around the fields on a bike from Rent-a-Bike van Dam, located in the parking lot of the gardens near the main entrance. From March 22 to May 13, they are open from 9:30 a.m. to 7 p.m. Not surprisingly, the strategy for beating the bike rental crowd is the same as for the gardens: go mid-week, early or late in the day. Or, take your bike with you on the train. More information on biking near the Keukenhof can be found on european-traveler.com.

Getting there. There is no direct public transportation from Amsterdam to Keukenhof; shuttle buses run from Schiphol, Haarlem, and Leiden. Combination tickets for the bus and the garden are available on keukenhoff.nl. On peak days, such as Easter and weekends, get there very early to avoid long queues. Other public transport options can be found on tulipsinholland.com. Driving is convenient, but parking can also get very competitive during peak times, so get there early. A taxi will set you back about €100 (one-way) for up to four people. It wouldn’t be Holland if the most convenient and affordable option wasn’t to bike. It will take about 2 hours each way from Amsterdam, so consider taking your bike on the train and biking from Leiden or Haarlem. Parking your fiets at Keukenhof is free.

Beating the crowds. Skip-the-line tickets might be a good idea during peak times. They are available from websites such as Get Your Guide.

The final bloom: Bloemencorso (Flower Parade). The annual parade makes its flower-strewn way from Sassenheim to Haarlem twice: in an illuminated evening parade at 9:15 p.m. on Friday, April 20 in Noordwijkerhout and a day-long parade on Saturday, April 21 as the floats travel from Noordwijk and arrive in Haarlem at about 9:30 p.m. On Sunday, April 22, floats will be on view at the Gedempte Oude Gracht in Haarlem. Tickets for grandstand seats and more information is available on the parade website.

Whichever way suits you and your family or visitors, just get to these world-class gardens. And don’t forget your camera!

Time Travel? No, Just a Book Club in France.

Photo: Les Anderson on Unsplash

by Allison Ochs, M.S.W
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As I sat at the Jardin Publique in Bordeaux, I overheard a mom talking about a book club. A month later another mom at a ballet class spoke about the same book club. My French was getting better, and I decided what better way to improve my French than to join a book club? I did what any American would do, "Hi, I just heard you talking. I am Carli's mom, and I am trying to improve my French. Would you have room for one more at your book club?"

The look on their faces was of utter shock. "This is an exclusive group. I am not sure we could accept you. I will ask." Gwendoline didn't get back to me. I didn't give up. "What about that book club? What book are you reading?"

A few weeks later I heard I could come if I promised not to take the discussion outside of the group. They decided having an American perspective could bring an exciting twist to their club.Their focus was classic French literature... Balzac, Camus, Gide, Victor Hugo and much more. I had four weeks to prepare for my evening and inhale one of these classics. In French of course.

I was nervous on that first night. I arrived and was told not to ring the bell but rather to tap on a window. It opened, and I was told to climb in. Not waking the children was a priority, so in I climbed with the rest of the women. Once in the kitchen, the wine started flowing. Six women were putting the last touches on the dinner, always a four-course meal with a beautifully set table. We then sat, discussed and ate. Within about one hour the first personal links to the book came out; struggles, illness, affairs, missed chances. These ladies were not best friends, they were well educated and from wealthy backgrounds, and once a month they let their guard down in this group. Everything was shared. When the cigarettes came out of the Louis Vuitton bags, you knew it was going to get even more serious. I felt like I had been transported back to an era long gone.

At first, I worried I was spying on the French bourgeoisie as if I were an intruder, but then I realized they had included me, they wanted me there, they trusted me. I won't share their stories, but I will say I was educated on just how different and yet beautiful cultures can be. It was one of my great successes in France. Thank you, ladies, I will never forget you, your lovely homes and lavish dinners and your sometimes scandalous stories.

Women’s Human Rights in Rwanda Revisited

Story and photo by Lauren Mescon, FAWCO rep

 

In 2014, the FAWCO HR Team sponsored the first Strength of a Woman tour to Rwanda to learn about advancements in women's human rights in the country. Team member Lauren Mescon recently visited Rwanda and shares her experiences. While Rwanda has unquestionably made significant strides under President Paul Kagame's leadership, some accuse him of suppression of human rights to quell opposition and remain in power, and many Rwandan women remain marginalized. This article does not seek to reconcile these conflicts but rather to simply share Lauren's observations from her visit.

I was reading "We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families" by Philip Gourevitch as I headed to Rwanda last summer. The book was written in the aftermath of the genocide, which occurred during 100 days in 1994 when it is estimated that more than 800,000 Tutsis and Hutus were killed. The causes of the genocide are complex, stemming from the colonial system and an unnatural categorization of people based on their looks. I visited Rwanda to see the gorillas, but arriving 23 years after the genocide and three days before the national election opened my eyes to issues that, as Westerners, we only glimpse as filtered by the media.

The experience was nothing short of remarkable.

After the U.S. elections, witnessing Rwanda's election made me think of the campaigns from when I was a child: red, white and blue banners flying, live speeches and people excited about the opportunity to vote for their favorite candidate — not resigned to voting for the person they least dislike. From the capital, Kigali, to the remotest village with a single community center, there were campaigns, and banners, and kids with fliers, and street, bike and barrel decorations, all for incumbent President Paul Kagame and his party. Many critics question the "landslide" win of Kagame, saying it was impossible. My observations and interaction with local people indicated that it was possible; they seem to have a leader who puts them first and whom they believe in.

Which takes me to why Kagame is there in the first place: most of us were distant sideliners to the Rwandan genocide. Even today when I mention my trip, I get incredulous looks and questions about a vacation in Rwanda. After WWII and the horrendous genocide perpetrated on the Jewish people by the Nazis, the UN created a formal genocide policy, including a definition of the term and a requirement that all participating countries treat genocide as an international crime and take steps to stop it. Despite this policy, the world literally stood by and watched, as within a matter of weeks, up to one million people were exterminated. The world's indifference led Rwanda to a leader, Paul Kagame, who believes that Africa must look after Africa. Kagame led the Rwandan Patriotic Front, the military organization that ended the genocide. He closed "refugee" camps where génocidaires continued to perpetrate their crimes, led his country through the reconciliation process, and leads it in his third term as president.

While the UN International Criminal Court set up a tribunal for Rwanda in Tanzania to try the ringleaders of the genocide, Kagame and the government decided to use Gacaca courts. These courts correspond to traditional, village-based courts, where village elders and their communities gather for problem solving. Following the Gacaca process, the genocide suspects were taken to the villages where they allegedly committed their crimes to be confronted directly by their accusers. The trials were overseen by local people respected for their integrity and were designed for both accountability and healing. As expected, there was criticism of this process, but, with a country entirely decimated, prisons overflowing and the urgency to move the country forward, these Gacaca courts tried two million people as compared to the UN's trial of 62.

Rwanda has also made big strides towards gender equality — almost 64% of parliamentarians are now women. Gender equality is enshrined in the constitution, requiring 30% of parliament to be women, which has enabled women in the country to make economic advances. A Ministry for Gender and Family Promotion, a gender monitoring office, a commitment to gender-based budgeting, and in recent years, a strong emphasis on fighting gender-based violence, have led to increased gender equity. Women now have the same rights to inherit land as men. Girls are equally as likely to attend school as boys, and there is a Girls Education Policy and Implementation Plan in place.

Everywhere we went we saw activity, from the largest cities to the smallest villages: women walking up the mountains, carrying babies on their backs and items on their heads; men and boys with bicycles loaded with sticks or plastic jugs of banana beer. The country is spotless. On the last Saturday morning of each month, everyone aged 18 to 65 participates in a clean-up day, called Umuganda (community work). Everyone must participate, even at the highest levels of government. Each community determines the needs to be addressed that day. Each month there is also a sports day when everyone runs or walks or bikes and ends up in the community center together. Critics from afar love to find fault, and Rwanda is no different. But I can tell you that I found it one of the most uplifting and hopeful experiences of my travels. The people were some of the most gracious, warm and enterprising I have ever met.

The sights and sounds of Rwanda are not to be missed. It’s a country I hope you will visit and support. It is a country that offers examples not only for Africa but for the world: lessons learned when the world closed its eyes to the genocide and the countries complicit in its perpetration; the swift process of justice employed by the country; conservation efforts in the mountains; community days; the burgeoning tourist trade and the feeling of hope that this country, with a majority population of women and children, emanates in everything it does. Rwanda is a country to visit for the genocide museum, the people, the mountains, the gorillas; a country to watch, as it has one of the fastest growing economies in Africa; a country to emulate when it comes to women and gender equality. The government seeks to transform Rwanda from a low-income, agriculture-based economy to a knowledge-based, service-oriented economy with a middle-income status by 2020. My money is on them!

Dating A Man From Another Country

Photo by Everton Vila on Unsplash

by Allison Ochs, M.S.W
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"Should we go get some dinner?" My heart was pounding when he said this.  I was an 18-year-old freshman at university, and this charming, handsome German man was asking me on a date — or so I thought.

He had told me he wanted to go to a real burger joint, better yet a drive-in. "I can show you," I chirped, and so it was planned. He was 25 and had been in the States for three months at the time; his English was still sketchy and I don't think he realized he was asking me out.

The diner was bustling with people, we talked, flirted (or at least I thought so) and had an amazing deep conversation about life. I was mesmerized.

A waitress chewing gum plopped the bill in front of him, "Here's your bill, tell me when you're ready." He picked it up slowly, looked and it and then at me. I just smiled without moving, thinking nothing of the bill.

He then proceeded to pay with a scowl. I couldn't figure out why as thoughts were racing through my head, "What was wrong? Had I offended him? Was it the waitress?" It didn't take long for me to find out. "Where I am from the bill is split. You obviously think I should pay for you, but I don't think so. I cannot afford this, and I don't want you to think you owe me something."

I felt awkward as another long conversation unfolded; it was to be one of many. Now 30 years later, we still have these discussions from time to time. Yes, he is now my husband, and I guess it was a date after all. Sometimes he says with his adorable accent, "You know I am not from Mars." He isn't, but it can feel like we’re from different planets, especially as we have moved and had to navigate other cultures together. It's no wonder I love the song “Fly Me to the Moon;” I feel like he has.

FAWCO Corner – February 1, 2018

by your FAWCO Reps, Lauren Mescon & Julie Lehr

Interim Meeting - March 23-25 in The Hague

The FAWCO Interim Meeting, to be held in The Hague March 23-25, is full.  If you would like to be put on the waiting list, please email the registrar.

Every year since 1995, FAWCO members around the world have lent their creative sewing talents to the FAWCO Friendship Quilt. This year’s Butterfly quilt will be raffled at the FAWCO Interim Meeting to raise money for the foundation's programs and charitable causes. You don't need to be present to win — get your raffle tickets from your FAWCO reps.

Quilt to be raffled at the Interim Meeting

Goodie Bags: Your reps tend to have a habit of not saying no. This time they said yes to preparing the goodie bags for the Interim Meeting. With a total of 160 anticipated attendees, they are now scratching their heads as to what to put into those bags — with no budget. That said, if you have any wonderful suggestions or connections to typical Dutch items, like stroopwafels, gin, cheese, chocolate, tulips, windmills (☺) or anything else you can think of, please let us know, as we would hate to just offer an empty bag!

Regional Meetings

Region 6 in Bern will meet on May 25 and 26 hosted by AWC of Bern. For more information, contact angela.aebersold@homespot.ch.

Opportunities for Involvement on a Global Scale

Like AWCA, FAWCO is made up of volunteers. If you want to get more involved, join one of the teams!

The Education Team, led by co-chairs Arandeep Degun and Carol-Lyn McKelvey, seeks to Increase Awareness of Global Issues in Education. Their emphasis is on global citizenship, literacy, equal access, and access to and initiatives in continuing education after high school, with special attention to UNESCO's involvement in global education. Don't miss their monthly Education Bulletin.

The Human Rights Team, led by Therese Hartwell, covers the topics of economic and political empowerment for women, ending violence against women, and women in peace and conflict. They regularly feature an article highlighting the link between education and human rights in their Human Rights Bulletin.

The Health Team, led by Blandina Steinhauslin and Linda Harvan, is new and will provide information about women's health and aging, and will also introduce practical tips and resources to care for ourselves and our family members.

The UN Liaison Team is active with FAWCO UN reps engaged in awareness raising and advocacy in New York, Geneva, Vienna and Athens, and holding leadership positions on NGO Committees on the Status of Women, Human Rights and Migration. Education is a theme throughout much of their work. Learn more!

Board Corner – Feb. 1, 2018

BOARD CORNER - SUMMARY OF EXECUTIVE BOARD MEETING

January 29, 2018

EB Members Present: Beth van Amerongen, Martha Canning, Kristin DeLong, Audrey Mezas and Christine Rigby-Hall

Guests: Rhonda Jimenez (Youth Programs) and Lauren Mescon (Parliamentarian and FAWCO Rep)

A. Approval of the Minutes - minutes of the previous meeting were approved.

B. Member Report - Kristin. We currently have 263 members.

C. Officer Reports

I. Vice President - Christine

  1. GM’s - For the February meeting the social time will be shortened due to Catherine’s memorial. Vendors have been informed. Last month the Andaz allowed us to use our old menu, per our request. We are expecting they will do so again this month.
  2. 2018-2019 Executive Board - The nominating committee requested we rename the new “VP Fundraising and External Relations” position. Kristin moved we change the title to “VP External Communications and Relations”. The motion was seconded by Audrey. The motion passed unanimously.
  3. 2018-2019 meeting location update - Christine shared the current quotes for meeting locations. A top venue verbally agreed to our €8,000 budget; however, they have not yet given us a formal contract.
  4. June Luncheon update - The luncheon will be June 4 at the Veranda. Options for the meal were discussed. It was agreed we would like three courses with a welcome drink as we had last year

II. VP Programs - Audrey

  1. 2018 Scholarship - Beth Massa has accepted the position for the 2018/2019 year. This year’s scholarship amount has not yet been determined. We will once again be using outside readers and need to come up with a way to properly thank them, such as a gift certificate or some other token gift to show our appreciation. Once again, there will be two categories, so the high school students are not competing with college students. There was discussion over the requirements for the application. Audrey will review the current policy and bring a proposal to the board, should she deem any changes are necessary.
  2. Youth Programs - Rhonda Jimenez. We have several companies potentially interested in providing internships for our students. They range from one-day opportunities to longer-term options.

III. VP Membership - Kristin

  1. Many of our Associate members are listed as full members on our website. Kristin plans to update their status for those cases in which we know for certain the member is an Associate.

D. Chairwomen/Committee Reports

  • Gala - Kristin: The Tulip Gala will be Saturday, March 10 at the Hyatt. It will be a sit-down dinner with a DJ. There is space for 128 people. The ticket price is still being finalized. It will include a welcome drink, full dinner, Dutch bar with the meal, cash bar for the duration of the party (10:30 onwards), a DJ throughout dinner and dancing until midnight. There will be a silent auction benefiting the FAWCO Target Project. If we have any big auctions items, they might be offered in a live auction. We are also having a magician for entertainment. Kristin will be sharing the solicitation letter with the board, for contacting potential donors.
  • Nominating Committee - Lauren: The nominating committee has been working hard to come up with the slate of candidates for the 2018-19 Executive Board. The slate will be officially presented to the board in February for approval.
  • FAWCO - Lauren:
  1. Interim Meeting - March 23-25 in the Hague. Registration is full. Lauren and Julie are doing the goodie bags.
  2. AWCA will be featured in the inspiring women section of the next newsletter.

E. New Business

  • Catherine's memorial - Martha. Approximately 35 members have responded that they will be attending the memorial. The family’s primary goal is to let AWCA members honor Catherine. We know of 3 family members attending and will save spaces for them. It will begin in our meeting room, followed by a reception.

Board Corner – Jan. 1, 2017

BOARD CORNER - SUMMARY OF EXECUTIVE BOARD MEETING

December 12, 2017

EB Members Present: Beth van Amerongen, Martha Canning, Kristin DeLong, Robin Ford, and Christine Rigby-Hall

Guests: Phyllis Larkin and Danielle Tomich

I. Guest Topic: Phyllis Larkin, Public Relations

    1. Phyllis shared that she recently met with our Web Coordinator, Alicia Puig, and they will be updating the club website in the coming months.
    2. Phyllis has been reaching out to American companies, such as Mary Kay and Tesla. Many companies earmark money to sponsor nonprofit organizations. She would like to see us obtain sponsorships at a level that would include benefits such as funding for memberships. She will pull together a proposal to present to the board at a future meeting.
    3. Phyllis would like us to have a larger presence with companies such as Expatica and iAmsterdam. She will look into the cost of doing this and will put together a proposal for a PR budget taking this into account.
    4. Phyllis asked what we can do for consulate women memberships. She would like us to consider discounts for military and government personnel.

Beth made a motion to create a new membership level of half-price for US Military and Government personnel. Robin seconded the motion. The motion passed unanimously.

II. Approval of the Minutes of the previous meeting - the minutes of the last meeting were approved.

III. Approval of New Associate Members/Member Report - Kristin. We currently have 257 members. (71 are new members this year.) There are no associate members to approve this month.

IV. Officer Reports

 

  1. Treasurer - Robin. Our current accounts total €63,535. Approximately €4,400 is scholarship. Our current Andaz spending is €2088.
  2. Vice President - Christine
    1. Andaz meeting update - Christine and Audrey met with the Andaz to discuss our issues. We are awaiting a new lunch proposal from them. They will give us a proposal for next year by February at the latest
    2. 2018-2019 meeting location update - Christine updated us on the current status of searching for venues. Lee Ford will be assisting her in investigating possibilities. It was discussed that the At Night Meetings do not necessarily have to be at the same place, since they do not require the vendor space and fewer people attend.
    3. June Luncheon - The Veranda has put a hold on June 4th for us.
    4. Changes to board duties and org chart - Christine evaluated all the board positions prior to presenting them to the Nominating Committee. She shared a description of all positions with the proposed changes, including reorganizing reporting relationships, renaming VP Programs to VP Philanthropy, recombining VP Internal Communications and Secretary, and adding a new VP (Fundraising and External Relations). Kristin made a motion to approve the new board structure as presented. Christine seconded the motion. The motion passed unanimously.
    5. Nominating Committee / Elections update - The committee has been formed and met. They requested the Executive Board to make brief videos to help promote their jobs.

C. VP Programs - Audrey has been communicating with the Hyatt concerning the gala. Kristin is chairing the committee and currently has 7 members on the committee. It was discussed that the tentative date of February 3rd is possibly too soon. Kristin will get with Audrey and the committee to come up with a new date.

D. VP Communications/Secretary - Beth

  1. Next Advisory Board Meeting - It was agreed that we should invite everyone on the org chart to the next meeting and then ask for agenda items. Beth will then organize the agenda to include times. It will be scheduled at the end of March. Tentative dates are either March 26th or 28th. Beth will contact the Schreierstoren to see if the room we used last year is available.
  2. The next board meeting will be Jan. 29, 2018, at 11 a.m. at Beth van Amerongen’s home.